Saturday, January 31, 2015

Do men still seek a virgin for marriage?

Virgin--in art
Carol Forsloff - Years ago virginity was important for both men and women and was a measure of the purity of a woman and the coming of age of a man in having his first wife, but is virginity still held in high esteem?

It turns out time has brought  new ways of looking at life that is shown by studies on the subject of romance.  Research, in fact, says for men having a virgin is not as important as other features in a relationship.  That does not mean, however, that men don't seek a woman of virtue.  A double standard remains the norm, despite what the research might say.

The top three characteristics men most want is love, brains and beauty, in that order.

What men most want is a woman who is smart and good-looking. Most women wouldn’t be surprised about men favoring an attractive face and figure, but being intelligent might be a bit of a surprise.   In 1939 intelligence did not figure in how a man looked at a woman.  Now men want a woman to work, to have a profession, to be a companion.  So men seek an educated woman more than they seek a virgin.

And what do women want?  Research says women want men who want to have a family and are willing to help care for that family and be supportive of the woman's need to have her own identity.  Both men and women want mates who are financially independent.

study at the University of Iowa of 1,100 undergraduates tells us what men and women want these days.   Since the 1930’s researchers have been asking students to rank characteristics they most want in a mate. Students, on these rankings,  are told to list 18 characteristics from irrelevant to essential. Love and attraction are tops now; in the past they didn’t figure high on the list at all.

Christine Whelan, one of the prominent researchers in the study and author of" "Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to True Love" observes that in the past marriage was a practical arrangement so men wanted a woman who was dependable and could cook. Chastity figured in the equation. Now it doesn’t. Women during that same period of the mid 20th century rate love highest on their list with dependability and emotional stability making the rest of the top three. They also like a man who wants a home and children, ranking it fourth, while men rank it ninth.

But when asked what they want in a woman, most men still speak of that "nice" girl they want to settle down with.  Even though promiscuity might be acceptable in the dating world, the double standard continues, as women may seek dependability and help in the kitchen, but they prefer a man with sexual experience, as opposed to a virgin.  A writer asked 25 men randomly their preference, virgin or not, in a woman and found that out of the 25 men surveyed, 14 prefer a virgin.

Still love is the value that binds both men and women in the modern world, more than sex or chastity, in a world where independence of mind is valued too.


Friday, January 30, 2015

What value do grandparents have in family relationships



Grandparents have qualitative and quantitative value

Carol Forsloff  Grandparents may be more valuable than many people think.  In fact not only is there emotional value in having grandparents, but the value can be quantified as well. 

The value comes with child care while parents take vacations and when they work.  That is the time grandparents often step in and assume the responsibility for caring for the children.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

'Sexy' garment is clue to better, simpler life

Man's shirt, woman in it
Carol Forsloff - Watch a movie of almost any genre from almost any year, and you see the woman's sexiest garment.  For men it is mysteriously enticing and for women comfortable too, so what's else is special about a man's white shirt?  And what can it tell us about building a better, simpler life?

There are many dimensions and paths to that simple life, but a man's white shirt might be that simpler way of helping us each determine which way to go and how to think about it.

World belief: Spare rod, spoil child perpetuates negatives of human behavior


Carol Forsloff - Despite certain world differences in politics and culture, one thing many have in common is "Spare the rod and spoil the child." But is this a good thing?

This advice of how to raise children may be cited as Biblical, however it is part of the culture of peoples around the globe of different faiths and ideas.

Monday, January 26, 2015

Women who drink smarter than men who do

Men and women are always said to be debating who is smarter, but science has established that drinking patterns can help answer the question.

In fact, "he just doesn't get it" may be underlined as truth by science, something likely to be refuted by the men who read this article and look at the results of what has been found.

But it's not all good news for women, as you will find by reading the article further as well.  Still the research says women who drink liquor are smarter than men who drink.

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Where are the oldest living people and what are the factors for living long lives?

Nation emblem for France
Several years ago the nation of Georgia proclaimed its citizen, Antisa Khvichava, as the oldest person in the world.  How long can the average person expect to live and what does knowing about this woman help the rest of us realize how to achieve longevity?

First of all, the evidence about the woman herself.