How can you be sexy in menopause?

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russel--Cougar and cub

Carol Forsloff - "Feeling sexy and being sexually active is good for one's health and
sense of well-being.  It is good exercise and slows down aging."  That's the message of the American Association of Retired Persons and sex experts for menopause.

One of the most important ways a woman has of measuring her femininity is how sexy she feels, and there are some good reasons to be optimistic by following some scientific suggestions.

What social scientists and doctors say is that menopause should not signal the end of the love affair.  Great sex can occur after menopause,after the reproductive years and the frets and worries during that
period of time.

Some women expect to lose their sex drives after menopause,  but it isn't true it disappears.  Sexual intimacy is an ongoing thing and has many dimensions.  One's desire for sex doesn't decrease with age nor is it a symptom of menopause.

Indeed some women feeling sexier during and after menopause.  It's then, when there is a decline in men's function, and the need for a little more effort to be made in the experience, sex can still be satisfying for both partners.

Couples experiencing difficulty may want to seek out a sex therapist's advice.

Lack of desire at that certain age often accompanies certain physical and emotional factors, such as stress or depression.  This is why it is important for the woman to be open with her partner and her gynecologist.  Very often women don't want to talk about intimate issues with doctors, but doing so can help facilitate the solution for sexual dysfunction.  Experts tell us that the sex drive does not necessarily go away, and that the decline in desire is gradual.  And folks can perk it up with practice and playful interactions.

There are also ways to overcome vaginal dryness that affects some women's interest in sex.There are other aids to help the physical interaction during sex so that it is less painful.

Safe sex is also important to prevent transmitted diseases.

Experts remind us that healthy sex is healthy for the mind and body, especially during aging.  In fact they say because children are not around to interrupt and a couple have time to play together, sex can actually be better.  Besides there are new tools and a social permission slip from changes in the culture that unleash a variety of ideas for sex play and performance.

The conclusion from those who study safe sex with older adults and the function and satisfaction of sex life-long  is if you are saying to yourself  or your partner at menopause, you're too old for sex, you're wrong.  Think of some other excuse.