Here's some advice on getting out of an abusive marriage

Candlelight vigil for victims of domestic violence in Natchitoches, Louisiana

Marsha Hunt----Abusive relationships can cause heartache, and getting out of them can sometimes be difficult; but an expert provides some methods of finding support and the way to escaping the trauma that is often part of leaving a union that causes pain.

The National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence tells us that what makes it particularly difficult for victims to escape, is the fact that abusers are frequently jealous and have kept the partner away from friends and family and make threats if the loved one leaves.  Often those threats involve some harm to the victim or children.

Here are some of the steps to take in leaving a violent relationship:
- Get a protective order against the abuser.
- Gather important documents, emergency money, clothing and belongings, and keep them somewhere safe.
- Record each instance of abuse, especially getting pictures of bruises and other injuries.
- Create an escape plan to get away.
- Memorize the phone numbers of emergency shelters, police stations and abuse hotlines.

One out of every four women, according to Safe Horizon,  will experience domestic violence at some point during her life.   In every city there are facilities that can help and often can provide emergency housing as well as counseling and help with law enforcement as well.

Another person to keep in the loop is a lawyer because of any legal complications.  Sometimes getting in contact with family and friends can make a difference also.