Don't say you're sorry for crying

Men do cry

That old advice of just get up and get on with it, and don't cry isn't really good advice, according to the experts. Crying had some benefit after getting a hug from your mother who let you cry for a little and then reminded you that you were going to be all right. Not crying when we're hurt will simply double back and bite you later, as research has shown about the impact of not expressing emotions that can be increasingly hurtful as the years go on.


In the past men were counseled not to cry. The education started early when boys were told not to cry when they felt bad, if they fell down, if they did not understand an idea or a problem.  These days psychologists warn that the fact men have more trouble expressing feelings through tears is one of the barriers toward their getting help when they need it. Learning to express feelings through tears early on is a way of guiding the child to the grown-up way of managing feelings through expressing them legitimately.

Know how you feel when you're all choked up and can't talk about your feelings because you think people will think you're silly if you cry? What we apologize for, however, is something that we shouldn't feel ashamed about. Crying allows us to keep healthy, so it's useful to know more about it and give our selves advice and consent to go ahead and cry when we need to because sometimes that's the best thing to do to discharge fear and feelings and allow you to move forward.

Therapists often recommend crying in self-help articles found in newspapers and magazines. Nevertheless, how many times do we still do it and hear other people doing the same. The "I'm sorry" for the sniffle, isn't necessary. My Mother told me "you're your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe you anyway when it comes to that type of words and behavior." However, people still apologize for doing it. But tears have a biological benefit because tension is released when we cry. Crying also lubricates the eyes. In addition it provides a physical catharsis that allows the body to discharge certain toxins.

Think about your inner self as needing a bath just like your outer body. Crying bathes and cleanses that inner self, gets you emotionally clean, and can refresh your heart just like a bath refreshes your body.

Crying provides emotional benefit. You will be relaxed and relieved, which allows the muscles to relax and then the relief continues. In other words, there is a mind-body connection to crying. Crying also relieves stress and therefore has a positive effect on our mental and emotional health because it is a natural response for coping with grief and pain, both physical and emotion. During stress we accumulate chemicals and hormones that are released when we cry. That's one of the reasons that crying makes us feel better. The chemical called endorphins are released when we cry, that makes us happy. It's what makes us cry, then have the kind of relaxation and relief that might even allow us to laugh afterwards. Then we have the relief from both the laughter and the tears. As one expert reminds us, "Crying is coping."

Next time you fall down emotionally or physically, you don't have to apologize to anyone for crying. Let the tears come when you need to and allow yourself to discharge hurts before they accumulate and do harm. This will allow you to keep your stress down and maintain good